I’m not here to tell you that long distance relationships are not hard. They are hard. Very hard infact. So far away from the “ideal“. But some couples do find themselves in situations where they could either opt for a long distance relation or end it. And most people do end it, some directly with the “Listen, you’re great but it’s not gonna work out” speech and some after a few months of half hearted attempts of making it work.
The problem, you ask? The problem is the stereotype that long distance relationships don’t work. Every relationship has the tendency to last, depending on how far you are willing to go to be with that special someone. Where there’s a will, there’s a way right?
1.Stop listening to what others have to say about your relationship
Save yourself the trouble and don’t give a fuck about what others think. Did you ask your best friend’s permission before kissing him? No right? But you did it anyway? Then you don’t need her advice now either. Most people will just like to corrupt your mind with negative thoughts. Believe in your partner and keep away from such people.
2. Make time for each other
This is something no relation can last without. You, both of you should set your priorities straight. The worse thing you can do is tell someone who’s ten thousand miles away, waiting for you to come online for more than an hour, that you have had a tiring day at work and won’t be able to talk tonight. No, don’t do that.
3. Buy an iPhone
Or an iPad. Seriously. It will solve soooo many problems. You could face time, talk on Skype, rant on viber about how awful your day was or text on whatsapp to ask him which pair of shoes would he want you to wear today!
4. Send care packages once in a while
It’s a truly lovely gesture. Not only does your boy/girl know that you care for her, but he/she will really appreciate something from home. And it can include anything! Maybe some cute teddy bears to keep her company at night? Maybe a mix cd of the songs you both love?
And when all else fails, send chocolates. God’s magical creation.
5. Don’t discuss your relationship problems avec others
There is really no need for your aunt’s daughter to know why you guys had an argument over mutual friends last night. Keep your personal problems personal. All people will ever do is pint you against each other. You can’t help it- people love to hate. So you’re better off dealing with your fights with each other rather than telling the whole world about it. You could, however, blog about it…
6. Make up
After every fight, make it a habit of making up with your partner. Remember that he/she too have been away from you for a while. Sometimes it gets to you, and that’s okay. The important thing is to keep in mind that you both love each other and try and make it work.
This is all I have got for now. Y’all have to excuse me, while I go for my date on Face time with my special someone 😉